When affection feels like a fairytale… until it detonates.
You meet them. They're intoxicating.
They text all day, call every night, show up with flowers, grand declarations, "I've never felt this way before" in week two.
You're not falling in love.
You're being love bombed.
🎭 The Performance of Perfection
Love bombing is a manipulation tactic often used by narcissists, emotionally insecure individuals, or people with anxious/avoidant patterns. It’s not romance—it’s a strategy.
The goal?
To hook you fast.
To skip trust and hijack your nervous system with dopamine overload.
Compliments, gifts, intense eye contact, rapid “soulmate” talk—your brain floods with feel-good chemicals. And just like that, you’re addicted to someone you barely know.
🚩 Red Flags in Designer Wrapping
It looks like:
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"I’ve never connected like this before"—on date two.
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Constant texting and checking in (aka surveillance wrapped as affection).
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Wanting to move fast—relationship, exclusivity, even living together.
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Jealousy disguised as protectiveness.
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Over-the-top praise that feels… excessive.
The flattery is seductive. But pay attention: healthy love builds slowly. Love bombing wants to skip the foundation.
💥 Why It Works—Until It Doesn’t
Your brain doesn’t know the difference between emotional intensity and emotional intimacy.
So when someone showers you with love, it feels like a deep connection.
But it’s not about you. It’s about control.
And once you're hooked?
The switch flips.
Suddenly, the calls slow down.
You’re “too sensitive.”
You're trying to earn back the version of them that never existed.
🧠 What to Do Instead
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Slow it down. Real connection takes time.
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Watch their actions, not just their words.
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Notice how they handle boundaries, not just how they love you.
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Trust your gut. If it feels too good to be true, pause.
💋 Final Thought
Love bombing isn’t love.
It’s a psychological ambush wrapped in romance.
And darling, you deserve more than intensity—you deserve consistency.
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